Roo is a bit dramatic...ok really, really dramatic.
Last night I took her for her first night of Cheer class. I thought it would be great for her. It would give her something fun to do, a place to meet new friends and maybe help her build her self-confidence. While we are standing in line to get registered she started crying...actually more like sobbing. I really don't know how to deal with her when she starts getting out of control like that. I put my arm around her and asked if she wanted to go home. I mean really Cheer isn't worth the trauma. She didn't want to go home, but she didn't want to be there either. Finally she was in control and we got her registered. We were sitting and talking to some friends and the Coach said it was time for class to start and I saw Roo's face and knew she was getting close to crying again. Her little friend grabbed her hand and dragged her to the middle of the class and she sat there and after about 1/2 a minute she was comfortable and enjoying herself. After class she was so excited and couldn't stop talking about it.
Then today I get a call from the school saying Roo didn't have any money in her lunch account, yeah I know I am really not going to win 'Mom of the Year' this year. She was pretty upset. I could hear her crying in the background. Since we live so close to the school it is no big deal to run money over to her. I grabbed the babies and ran over to the school as quick as I could. And there she was sitting in the office sobbing. It broke my heart. The problem is once she gets that upset it takes her a long time to calm down and I have very little patience when she starts crying. She finally calmed down and took the money and headed off for lunch.
I know she isn't shy when she is in familiar situations. She just doesn't have the coping skills to go with the flow if anything unexpected happens or if she is in a new situation. And really, why does she have to cry?
- Do you have shy kids?
- How do you help your kids come out of their shell?
- Does it make you feel like a bad Mom?
- Do you forget to put money in your kids lunch accounts?!?
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I have the opposite problem. My kids never stop talking! I'm sure they take after their dad, not me of course! I don't know what I would do with a shy child. The crying child I guess I tend to ignore. I can't take the crying and whinning....good luck!
ReplyDeleteSo far, my kids aren't nearly as shy as I was.
ReplyDeleteI do forget to put money in their account--then the school just sends a note home, saying what they owe. They get a little credit account I guess, which is good.
Sorry, I'm not any help with the other stuff.
Oh My! Where do I start. My oldest Josh- He can be really shy. He is actually getting better, but if there is any change in his schedule or routine he has a melt down. Starting with nursery every single sunday was such a nightmare. Then primary, he literally kicked & screamed as I dragged him into sharing time & his teacher had to hug & hold & plea for him to stop. I could go on & on with stories with him. He breaks the mold & you'd think with almost 11 years I'd know as his mom how to help or what to do. But usually I am just frustrated & overwhelmed. He is my hardest child by far & everyday is usually some type of struggle with him. But of course I love him to pieces...
ReplyDeleteCharly & Allie drive me nuts because when they get around someone they start talking in puppy yipes or really high voices & then they will even start acting like dogs. It embarrases the crap out of me & at times they won't even speak to others for a long time. ( just the other day with my parents here, they acted like that for over an hour.) My mom & dad don't like it at all & it makes me so uncomfortable. Like somethings wrong with them for acting like that...
Tyler is not shy at all. He makes friends with everyone & loves to be center of attention.
Hey- if you forget to put $ on their accounts don't they still get a pb&j sandwich & all the fruit they can eat? Mine do- Alright free food...
They stamp my kids hands with a need lunch $ stamp & then 1/2 the time. I don't even see it anyway.
I don't mean to sound negative about my kids. They have their own little quirks & problems.
ReplyDeleteI really worry a lot about Josh & how well he's going to do in the world. But I can't worry about the future.
My girls are just silly & love to be themselves!
*No not shy, socially underdeveloped... Hide in their rooms when someone comes over (OH WAIT he is 25!!!)
ReplyDelete*Put them in Drama
* You are an amazing mom...I on the other hand had amazing day-care people
*hehhee Yea, I can't tell you how many times the school would send nots home saying that my childs account has been in the red for a week and needed taken care of NOW!
Love ya
Niece